I am terrified of stick shift.
I can't drive that to this day. My dad screwed me up on it, because he decided he wanted a belly laugh and my first time out directed me up a super-steep hill, so of course I konked out, and the worst part was, I could not get started again...not only that, it was so steep that even with the car in gear and the e-brake set I was still going backwards.
I had to cruise backward turning till I was perpendicular to the road to stop creeping back, and I got out of the car and told dad he was driving the rest of that way. Of course, he got his laugh, and I got soured on stick for the rest of my life.
I tried, one other time, and konked even on a flat stop...tried 11 times to start up again, and could not do it in a Mazda Miata. I gave up after that. No stick for me ever again.
I'll bet if you had someone who was a trainer interested in teaching you, not pranking you, you could do it. I've taught numerous relatives, girl friends the kids of girlfriends and so on to drive a stick. I've got a niece, who if we can get time, wants to learn. Your dad wanted to teach EVERYTHING at once and treated it like a joke. If I was training you in manual shifting, before we ever got near the road, you'd be taught clutch control. No traffic, no hills, nothing else.No jokes either. I used to train people on operating a lift truck. Some got better at it than me.
You can do it. You just need someone interested in teaching you not messing with your head. I didn't drive an automatic until I was 18. When I was learning to drive, I remember turning left and stalling in front of an older man. He just put his hands up in the air. You have a kid and an older adult and the car gets hiccups and dies. Fast forward many years, I'm teaching a niece to drive a stick. She kills it. I get out to move the car rather than have her freak out. The lady behind us sees a kid and an older adult and a car stalling. She just grinned and threw her hands up. I think it's programmed into older people.
People built the car. People (like you) are it's boss.